Reader Mailbag ? Long Distance : The Alpha Persona

I got a really long email the other day describing the details of a situation a reader was having.? Due to the personal information included in the email, I?ve decided to use the reader?s own summary:

Summary: -I have an awesome gf who I really like, but who I?m about to move away from -Do we go long distance? -Open relationship? -Cheat? -Or just break up? All advice appreciated.

I have a rule against long distance relationships.

What is the point of steady dating a girl if the only plus (constant, on demand sex) isn?t attainable?? There is also no guarantee that what is yours will stay yours.? In our case, our reader is potentially out of play for a year ? and a year is a long time to be not around her.? It could prove very challenging to keep her interested and with you for a full year if you?re not even in the same country.? Let?s go ahead and discuss the options you?ve settled on (best options, as it stands):

Long Distance
No, this one is out.

Open Relationship
If you can get her to swing for it, this would be the best route.? However, you?ve got to be totally chill with the fact that she will be on some strange penis in your absence. Also, the longer you are in an open relationship with her, the less likely you?ll return to a monogamous relationship ? either by her vote or yours.

Cheat
This is a good option if she never, ever finds out.? You also have to go into this knowing that she already thinks you?re cheating/will be cheating on her.? You?ve got to compensate for that ? turn up the beta a bit more than normal, and make sure your alpha is Alpha so she gets wet talking to you.? Skype naked, too ? that?ll help.

Break up
This is what I vote you do.? It has all the chance of working out good like cheating and not getting caught, and none of the risk of getting caught.? The key with this is going to be ending things on an amicable and friendly note.? You don?t want to fill in the well because you might be able to return to it later.

A Good break up script

Look, [Melody], I?m going to be gone for a long time.? You deserve a man who will be there for you, and I?m just not going to be able to do that right now.? I don?t want to lose you, but I don?t want you miss out on something great, either.? I think the best thing we could do right now is be friends until I get back [to town].? In a year, when all this is behind us, we?ll see where we are and we can pick up from there.

Don?t belabor the point when you break up with her, but don?t be rude or short about it.? Say it like it?s going to be hard for you ? hell, it might be ? so she knows it wasn?t an easy decision to come to.?? At the same time, though, you have to be kind of swift with it ? like a bandaid: You just want to get it over with.

Let me know what you decide to do and how it goes for you.

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